This one is a matter of opinion.
People are afraid of being alone and don’t spend enough time observing alone-ness.
There are one-million-and-one methods of distraction, of interaction, of ways to reinforce a false belief that we are not alone.
When you see someone who seems alone at the time, now, they are not alone. They have their phone*, their social media alerts. The radio, the TV, the messages and continuous inputs.
Ultimately however, we are here on a solo journey.
Yet in the cities, we have created a fabric that in order to experience this, we need a concerted effort.
Alone-ness is not anti-connection of course.
It is pro-connection. We have our family, our friends, our community. This is not against them.
Yet, when we are able to experience our aloneness more regularly, more fully, we can feel it, immerse ourselves in it, observe who we are, be comfortable with what we see.
Ultimately, cultivate love for our raw selves. Self love.
From self love, powerful connection isn’t just possible, it gets a little easier and a little more regular.
What’s the method?
At its core, we have meditation, or awareness – the courage to stop, to go into ourselves, to be alone for a just a few moments and observe.
At the beginning, it is difficult. There are a million reasons the mind can create to not begin this. To stay engaged. When we move past these though, we start to notice the power.
*I’m not bashing phones. I’m pro phone, pro technology, pro device… But above this, pro-awareness.
