“Hey, want to go out for dinner on Wednesday?”
“That sounds fun! Let me get back to you…”
Sure. Sometimes we need a little time.
But for a lot of people, this continually blows out.
You see, we can choose to make a decision.
And, we can choose to not make a decision.
In the first, there is opportunity cost. Once you engage in “something,” you’ve left “something else” on the table. Knowing this can make things difficult.
In the second, we are often moving subconsciously. It can feel that by avoiding the tension of the decision we are somehow alleviating the difficulty.
Usually though, it simply makes matters worse.
As the lifecycle of the decision increases, the opportunity costs go up. Through leaving the matter “open,” we then create friction in any other engagement with this person (until it’s closed!), or potential engagement with that same time slot.
Collectively, through stalling, we now have a recipe to increase the “seriousness” of the situation, dissipate energy and personal power through avoidance, or lack of intent.
Furthermore, we usually miss out, because the tables all got booked up and the price increases!
