The other day I stood in a shoe store for about 15 minutes. I was interested in one of two pairs of shoes, I hadn’t purchased casual shoes for about 5 years. It was taking a while, and I was about to walk up to the register, but I decided to run and experiment. So...
I eat a chocolate bar, so I hit the treadmill to burn off the 283cal…* My partner cooks dinner tonight, so I do the cleaning up… They forget part of my order at the café, so they give me a voucher for a free coffee next time… The “trade” mentality makes sense, it’s embedded deep...
Only when the fog clears do we notice a lack of direction. When you bring the practice of attention to the breath and body, combining both “feeling” and relaxation, You can then start to see the parts of you, or parts of your life that may be being numbed or avoided. The fog clears, allowing...
To be polite. When we are young, this is one of the first lessons we learn. Don’t ruffle feathers. Of course, generally a helpful posture. Certainly preferable to outright aggression. But later in life, we often see a little side-effect, or confusion, and that is around making assertions. An assertion is taking a stand. It...
One of the practices we’ve done in retreats is the practice of “seeing.” After a couple of days in the retreat, participants head out for an hour walking around in nature. There are no special instructions, simply to really observe. To stop, and really notice what it is that is there, right in front of...
When you book in for surgery, you want a committed surgeon. A surgeon with conviction is great, but it’s of far less use. The fact that the other person is convinced on the outcome may, or may not help us in reality. What we want to know, really, is that they are committed to doing...
Recently I cut pretty much all my hair off. Short hair was the life-long norm for me, but every ten years or so I’ve let it go long. Anyway, I went to the place down the road – they give you an amazing “hair wash experience” before the cut. Some places don’t do that. It’s...
In a world of infinite connectivity and abundant data, your edge is not in the information you have. The edge is not in the moves you can do. The edge is not in your specific strengths. These are all isolated. An edge is found only in relativity – it is relational. How you think, move,...
